A mum has been left in a tricky situation after she discovered she couldn’t afford specialist care for her children during her sister’s wedding – meaning she can’t attend
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Weddings are expensive, whether you’re a bride, a groom, a bridesmaid, a best man or even just a regular old guest who has to fork out for a hotel and travel.
For the most part, it’s just something we take on the chin, because the people involved are our nearest and dearest, and we want to be there to support them on their big day – but what happens when we can’t actually afford to do so?
One woman has found herself in a bit of a sticky situation, after she realised she can’t actually afford to go to her own sister’s wedding, because the wedding is out of town and her children aren’t invited.
“I have three kids, two have autism, one is non verbal and has delays and other issues, which mean we need someone comfortable and trained in how to care for our child with more needs. These people are expensive,” the woman explained on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum.
“Normally we have one babysitter on hand as well as family, but my family are going to the wedding and none of my husbands family are free the weekend of the wedding. My sister said no exceptions to the child free rule and we can’t afford the prices some babysitters are (fairly) looking for in the period of time we need them for.”
Unfortunately, the woman’s husband has already told her sister he can’t go, as the wedding is during his busiest time at work, which means he’s also too busy to look after the children while their mum is away.
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“I can’t figure anything else out. I have tried, but we are on a very tight budget due to therapies and other medical needs our kids have,” she continued.
“My sister is furious. She told me anyone can figure it out in the time we’ve had and that we can take the pay cut if my husband takes the week off or just hire a regular babysitter and save money that way.”
She went on to say that her sister warned her that if she doesn’t show up at the wedding and stay for the duration, their relationship will change forever.
The woman turned to Reddit to question whether she was in the wrong to tell her sister she couldn’t afford to make the wedding, and many suggested her sister should offer to help pay for the specialist sitter.
“First, it’s called wedding invitation and not wedding command. So if you invite people you must be prepared that they won’t come,” one Reddit user wrote. “Second, the price of a child free wedding is, that people won’t make it. She can’t have it all.”
Another commented: “Your sister is within her right to have a child-free wedding, but she needs to understand that may put her guests that have children in a difficult position, since their children are pretty much their top priority.
“Take a paycut, get any old regular babysitter for your kids with special needs, and prioritise her wedding? Really?”
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